Now That Kids Want Condoms

Monday’s Daily paper had a headline that sent shivers down many parents spine. We want condoms, teens say, the headline read. To many parents, it came as a shock that many teens did not want any sort of abstinence talk any more, they just wanted protection to be made readily available and it begged so many questions?  

How did we get here? 

What did we do wrong? 

What can we do to remedy the situation? 
I will attemot to answer the third question through one simple memory verse I learn while I was in Sunday School. 

​Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

Proverbs 22:6 KJV

Train – the verb “to train” connotes learning or to educate. When a preset takes the time to educate the child,  the child learns behavior.  We cannot allow ourselves to leave a void of knowledge that we are not filling in the mind of a youngster. They have curious minds. We must always train them. 

-the noun “train” reminds me of how a train has carriages. Carriages are always Lee by the train engine. A child is like a carriage. They follow the engine (parents)  wherever they go. One reason why children are the way they are today, is precisely because they are following the way they are being led by their own parents. As a parent, you have to realise that you are the first compass they have on what is acceptable and permissible. Before a child looks to the world for answers, they have looked at their parents and become unsatisfied with what they are seeing. 

up – This means that there is something/someone is down. Every single child craves to be elevated go a higher level of knowledge. The parent, through experience has a wealth of wisdom they can pass on to the child. The child is like a young eagle in its nest raking out her head waiting for food from mama eagle. As a parent, you must lift the understanding and maturity of a child to a place where they now become respectable Members of society. They are to become an example to their peers as well.  They can only become beacons of hope in their peer groups of they get a good grounding in their own homes.

a child – we must also understand that these are children, not fully grown, not fully developed. Every child has a measure of foolishness embedded in them. So were we when we were their age. Some of us were even worse. The problem is adults keep forgetting that they were once young and stupid as well.  Training should be with love and patience as well.  

in the way– Parents must make the child know that not everything they see outside is right, let alone permitted within their house. There is a way that your child should act or behave. They cannot hold themselves to the standard of others if they want to make it in life. They must know the true way. They need to be shown where to go, and how to live. It’s the parents take work to show the way. 
 he should go: The parent makes the best effort to show the way, and for the time the child cannot make independent decisions, they Must follow the way. When they are old enough to go their way, they decide whether to follow that route or not. A parent cannot force a grownup child to do as they say. They must also allow the child at that time to make the decision for themselves. 

and when he is old– Children grow up. It’s inevitable. They mature with time. Now it’s the parent’s prerogative to make sure that by the time they are old enough to make decisions, they have already been guided. You can only punish a growing child physically but when they are older you have to discipline differently.  Adults usually behave the way they were raised up. It is no wonder that some adults grow up to be entitled and spoilt, because they were raised that way. Others are very responsible and dependable members of society because their parents showed them the essence of being a good and ethical person. 

, he will not depart from it. Usually,  the behavior someone learns in the home is the same they take out in the world. The child will be the same way the parent showed them. 


Loving Her Right

“Men seek comfort, confirmation that they are OK. Most men are, at heart, uncertain about themselves. They form a relationship and get married to affirm their place in the world. They learn, they think, how to treat a woman, how to be with her. They call that love. But ultimately it doesn’t seem to work. They wonder where love went.”

It was never really love in the first place; it was an attempt to feel the comfort they found with their mother. A man’s wife, girlfriend or partner is not his mother. This cannot be under-emphasized. All the criticism that a wife does not act the way his  The love he needs to show her is of a totally different kind. It’s critical that a man understands this in learning how to love a woman. Continue reading “Loving Her Right”

Goals For The Blog-Blogging Branding

Its been quite a journey on this blog.

Its now 5 years since I began the blog.However, the past 4 years I haven’t been very serious, as I should have been. So, as a way of getting back on track, I enrolled to Blogging University. This should be interesting. Continue reading “Goals For The Blog-Blogging Branding”

Forgiving the Unforgiven One Part Two

I am back! Or should I have said in the last post *inserts Schwartzenegger(I just had to Google the correct spelling→ Schwarzenegger) voice* “I’ll be back”. Well I am back,  I had started to speak on Unforgiveness in my previous post. Read about it here.
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Gospel Karaoke Night- Old School Time

I should start by saying as a member of Bathroom Singers Association, i would officially like to thank Emerald Events for the gem that is Gospel Karaoke Night. We get to just sing our hearts out, on point or off key.
July 6th 2013 was an epic night for Gospel Karaoke. Its not just the fact that
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Reasons Why Dida Should Be President

I know that there is so much talk to thus far as to who is supposed yo be the President of this country. Eight Presidential candidates have offered themselves to take the mantle from the Baks come March 4th and be the fourth president. Allow me to sidestep the very obvious frontrunners and focus on one very special member of the aspirant group. He goes by the name Mohamed Abdooba Dida. He is the flagbearer of the Alliance for Real Change (ARK) I know I am also thinking,”You are very sure its nit ARC? Prior to the date of clearance by Isaak Hassan and IEBC, the only people who knew about his candidature were his immediate family and strategy team. A fortnight ago, he was the darling of many Kenyans with his interesting pphilosphies on several matters , in a very comical way. After the second debate, I am now more than ever convinced that he deserves the seat of Presidency. These reasons outlined below are the main reasons why I think he should be elected President. 1. No Scandal: Of all the Presidential Candidates, he is truly the only one without a scandal to his name. While it vould be attributable to not being in leadership, he has a clean bill of health in my book. I want a President without any debts or charges of any sort. 2. Common man Approach: When you listen to Dida speak, you can see the frustration of the mwananchi in him. His struggle has been one that you and I as ordinary Kenyan. He spoke on the wage bill inequalities and his own experience as a teacher in North Eastern. You can surely feel that love he has for his people. 3. His leadership is legendary. Dida was a teacher, unknown to the world, and in an instant, he has become the talk of the country. In my opinion, he could be the seasoning that was amiss. In an issue based country, he would be a front runner for the post, probably the man to beat. His suggestions, laced with a comic feel hold so much sense when you take some time to truly ponder them. 4. The light touch that stings: During the first debate, he is hailed to have come up with the third rule of eating. He advised Kenyans to “not vote for him, but vote for the best” All in all, Dida is an ordinary man like the rest of us, speaks in a language that’s understandable and makes us see the true picture. Like Hon. Dida says,”Vote for the best”

The Vault- December Edition

For those who know me well, you already know that I love music very much. It is probably the one thing I love more than food. Speaking of food…..wait if I speak about food I will forget what I was about to say. Where was I? Yes… Music. I love music. I cannot say I love only one type of music, because it is not uncommon for me to have a playlist that goes from Stamp On It by Sherwin Gardner to Nzambi na Bomoyi by Makoma. I adore music. It is the one thing that moves me from having a foul mood and three minutes and fifty six seconds later, I am Continue reading “The Vault- December Edition”